Sexual Scripts That Will Save Your Sex Life

Sexual scripts that will save your sex life are needed to be updated in relationships over time to keep the physical relationship vibrant. Sometimes sexual scripts (e.g. kissing > foreplay > intercourse) or the way you’re getting sexual with your partner can get so boring. This happens because of strenuous, full of anxiety and sometimes being blocked by our emotional barriers and baggage.

According to Lisa Thomas, LMFT and Clinical Sex therapist, sexual scripts needs to be updated in relationships over time to keep the physical relationship vibrant. Additionally, having a sexual script that you both are not enjoying can lead to sexual dysfunction, dissatisfaction and low frequency. On the other hand, sexual scripts that work for both of you can lead a couple’s intimate relationship to a new level of connection.

Below she summarized some guideline to help couples rewrite a sexual script that is satisfying, pleasurable and relaxing:

  1. Kiss for 5 minutes. Kissing helps you get aroused, ready for sex, reduces anxiety as it relaxes as.
  2. Don’t skip foreplay and take turn giving and receiving. Foreplay is the most intimate step of the sexual process. It represents the part of a sexual encounter where you take turns in pleasuring each other. Oral stimulation is one example of foreplay. Try talking about it with your partner outside the bedroom as something you both want to explore.
  3. Say something like “that feels good” or like what they are doing by giving them gestures. Your partner would often want to know which of their touches feels good. Give a good feedback so they’ll know what they’re doing makes you feel pleasured. And if in any way, your partner can’t grasp on what you really like, finally show them.
  4. Look at each other while being sexual. During the process of being sexual together, open your eyes and look at your partner. Looking at each other leads you both to grow sexually by confronting each one’s sexual self, by taking risks together and taking ownership of each other by being sexually connected together.
  5. Try new things that you like. This can just be, when did the last time you tried initiating, experimenting new positions, new lighting.

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