Successful Relationship

There’s no single “formula” to a perfect and successful relationship. However, we’ve studied an awful lot about what long term successful couples do. While everyone’s relationships are a bit different, but we can take away a lot from what we know works.

Positivity Matters

In a study published in The Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, researchers found that the way couples react to each other’s good news — either with excitement, pride or indifference — is crucial in forming and maintaining a strong bond and a successful relationship.

Communicate Correctly

Not surprisingly, studies show that conflicts about money and poor communication lead to unhappy couples more than almost anything else. This includes expecting your partner to read your mind, not speaking up, and harping on pointless issues. Talking and sharing is critical and this is why we created the How Game Are You? board games, to start people talking and sharing, and to see that its not that hard to achieve a successful relationship once you’ve started.

Maintain Strong Friendships Outside Your Relationship

Put fewer emotional demands on spouses. Married couples have a lot to gain by fostering their relationships with family members and friends. The happiest couples, she says, are those who have interests and support “beyond the twosome”.

Try New Things Constantly and Often

Couples who make time for fun activities tend to stay together longer, and become the long term successful relationship couple.

Sex Is Important

As you’d expect, several studies show that couples who have sex at least two to three times a week are happier with the relationship. Put bluntly, regardless of the age, the more sex you have, the higher the level of relationship satisfaction. Talking openly about sex and finding a middle ground regarding frequency appears to be very important for overall sexual and relationship satisfaction. Many couples say this is the hardest topic and yes it needs to be handled delicately and respectfully, but it does need to be discussed. Play the Couples Intimacy game and you have a great starting point, and its fun.

Don’t Be A Selfish Jerk

  • Contribute to the household chores
  • Quit video gaming your life away
  • Quit hashing out problems over text messages
  • Even out your drinking habits
  • Be nice, keep open lines of communication, and try to do the things that matter.

Take action

Every successful relationship needs tending to keep it successful. Invest the time into some of the above activities that may have slipped, keep your communication open and develop your trust.

If you need some help and some extra fun, buy the How Game Are You? Couples Intimacy game to take things up a notch. How Game Are You? Couples Intimacy Edition is now available through our website, Amazon (US and AU) and Ebay (AU). You can view full details of the game here or order your own copy of the game now and be one of the first to receive it. Let the fun and romance begin and take your intimate relationship to another level.

Ways To Communicate In Relationships

On ways to communicate in relationships, it is often said that actions speak louder than words. However, we should also take note that words have its own place in a relationship. What and how you speak these words is one of the ways to determine how you value a person or a person values you. And that being said, communication holds importance in a relationship. Yet, in some cases, talking and communication can lead to arguments if not carefully dealt with including proper toning and word selection. We even tend to be more of the confrontational type which basically leads to nowhere and is an unhealthy practice. Whilst being communicative means you’re willing to work things together and play as a team.

Below Relationship Rules points out two of the best way to communicate in a relationship.

  1. Avoid using the word ‘should’ in your relationship and that is when talking with each other. Using this word implies you know better than your partner, airing dominance, and authority over him/her.
  2. Silence is never an option. We might think that keeping silent is a good idea to avoid any conflict altogether. However, this could lead to unnecessary resentments with feelings all bottled up inside and expectations not being met. It’s good to remember that you don’t have to hide what you want need/want to say, you just have to be careful with how you deliver it across.

And you may not always have that perfect talk all the time and getting into fights. Still, there are no fights that a good talk can’t fix. Certainly communication is one crucial part of a good happy relationship. Adding some fun like playing will surely keep the relationship fresh and exciting. Therefore, buy the How Game Are You? Couples Intimacy game to take things up a notch.

How Game Are You? Couples Intimacy Edition is now available through our website, Amazon (US and AU) and Ebay (AU). You can view full details here or order your own copy of the game now and be one of the first to receive it. Develop how you communicate with your partner and finally, let the fun and romance begin.

For the complete article please visit Relationship Rules and learn how to best communicate with your partner.

Sex Conversations

Sex and sex conversations can be one of the most intimate and pleasurable moments couples can experience. However, it can also be one of the terrifying things to deal and talk about with, even with a partner. ‘How Game Are You? Couples Intimacy game’ was developed as a tool to start conversations, reduce stigma’s, increase understanding and have fun.

This helps talking about sex finally having great sex conversations so that later on you can communicate better with your partner about specific topics in a more meaningful way. We hope you get to play the game and in the meanwhile, here is an article written by Miri Mogilevsk and posted at EverydayFeminism.com, talking about difficult sex conversations.

Five reasons talking about sex can be difficult:

  • Internalized Sexual Stigma. To be brought up in an environment where sexuality is stigmatized, it’s not easy to tell yourself no matter how you want to believe that there’s nothing bad shameful about it. This can result to being self-conscious, or being anxious talking about it.
  • Not Knowing the Words to Use. It’s sometimes hard to talk about sex because we just don’t know which terms we should use. To either use the more clinical or the vulgar ones. And basically, there’s nothing wrong or weird about using these terms but having gotten used to seeing them in health textbooks and dating sites chat messages, makes it a lot harder to use them in a more positive way.
  • Cultural Scripts About Sex. One good example, is how romantic movies portray couples hooking up for the first time in an amazing and passionate way. We are aware that this scenes are not truly real, but still many of us still ends up believing this fantasies.
  • Bad Previous Experience. You might have done this before and in an earnest way, but somehow .got a bad reaction from the other party. Doing it all over again with another person might just trigger fear of rejection again.
  • Past Trauma. If you have a history of sexual trauma, then sex is just not the right topic for you, even with someone already close to you. It might just bring up old wounds and scary memories.

But, whatever reasons you and your partner has now for not being able to talk about sex in your relationship, there are always ways to make it easier:

  • Use Checklists. The use of checklist are mostly common to the BDSM.kink communities, where potential partners need to negotiate and arrange their acts before they play. However, using checklist can also be helpful to the ones that do the familiar routine. This list can act like a menu in your favourite restaurant! This will allow you both to take what options and actions to take before that moment rather than during that moment. Here are two great example of list you can check from Autostraddle and Scarleteen.
  • Ask Them What They Like – And What They Don’t. If you partner is now more comfortable with a direct conversation about the matter, it’s sometimes a lot better to start it by asking them what they prefer rather than specifying your own. As you discover what your partner want to dos and not to dos, you might find out common grounds that would make talking a lot easier.
  • Share Erotica or Porn That You Like with Your Partner. If you’re the type of person who’s comfortable of showing you partner things that turn you on, then erotica and porn might help your partner understand and learn more of you preferences. Unfortunately, pornography has been overused nowadays that it turned out to be unrealistic. And this is an important fact that you should put in mind.
  • Take the Conversation Out of the Bedroom. Talking with your partner about sex while you’re doing it or just about to, is not really the best of time. The worst thing is the feeling that you’re just doing something you don’t like just to make your partner happy. Then, establishing these limits outside of the bed might turn out to be easier. You can always ask your partner for a good time to talk about it or just letting the conversation flow when it’s brought up in a discussion.
  • Remember That Sex Doesn’t Have to be Awesome Right Away. Sometimes people are just sexually incompatible. Sometimes people’s body are not just capable of what they want to do with each other. And sometimes people’s sex drive just differ. And apart from that, most of the time it’s just too much to put everything on the table the first time you do it together. So, after all it’s really okay along the way.

Good sex is a wonderful thing. Therefore, buy the How Game Are You? Couples Intimacy game to take things up a notch. The game is now available through our website, Amazon (US and AU) and Ebay (AU). You can view full details here or order your own copy of the game now and be one of the first to receive it. Let the fun begin and take your intimate relationship to another level.

Physical And Verbal Exercise To Build Intimacy

Physical and verbal exercise to build Intimacy are crucial in a relationship. Jordan Gray, a relationship consultant and coach usually suggest to his client to do to further build their intimacy. (If you happen to be more of a verbal person, verbal exercises will follow after this content).

Below are some examples of physical and verbal exercise to build Intimacy:

  • Soul Gazing. Facing each other in a seated position, hold 3-5 minute eye-to-eye contact with your partner without talking. You are allowed to blink, though. If the silence is too long select a 4-5 minute song while doing the exercise
  • Extend cuddle time. Change your bedtime routine. Being distracted with electronics or reading books, gives us the thought of having a more good nights sleep. However, cuddling and/or sex releases hormones that helps you get to sleep much easier.
  • The 7 breath forehead connection. With your foreheads touching, breathe seven deep, slow breaths in sync with your partner. Just like how the eye-to-eye exercise this connects you to your partner more intimately and sexually.
  • Uninterrupted listening. Set a timer and let your partner say whatever they need to say to vent to you. During the whole venting moment, the other party is not allowed to comment or react verbally. They can react through body language or facial expressions. When the timer stops, the role switches.
  • The weekly CEO meeting. Talk about your unfinished business (e.g. unfinished argument, unmet expectations, unheard desires) the whole course of a busy week. Just setting a non-negotiable 30-minute time with you and your partner away from all distractions (phones, computers, kids, etc). You can start with simple questions as:
    • How are you feeling about us today?
    • Is there anything you feel incomplete about from this past week that you would like to talk about?
    • How can I make you feel more loved in the coming days?
  • 5 things. You and your partner will both list and/or discuss “5 things” within a certain topic. This can be 5 things you love about your partner, 5 things you want to do with your partner, 5 things that you’re grateful for your life, etc.

And here goes the verbal exercise, questions you can ask to go deep in your relationship:

    • “Is there anything I can do for you in this moment to help you more comfortable or feel loved?”
    • “How can I better support you in your life?”
    • “Is there anything I have done in the past week that may have unknowingly had hurt you?”
    • “When you come home from work, what can I do or say that will make you feel the most loved?”
    • “Is there any kind of physical touch that I can engage in more that helps you feel loved?”
    • “Do you think you will need more closeness or more alone time in the next couple of weeks?”
    • “Is there any argument that we had this past week that you feel incomplete about?”
    • “How do you feel about our sex life lately?”
    • “What are the main stressors currently in your life, and is there any way I can alleviate that stress for you, if only a small amount?”
    • “When do you find speaking difficult and how can I best support you through those moments?”

If you need some help on these exercises, buy the How Game Are You? Couples Intimacy game to take things up a notch. You can view the full details of the game here. The game helps in building connection through communication and is now available through our website, Amazon (US and AU) and Ebay (AU). You can order your own copy of the game now and be one of the first to receive it. Let the fun and romance begin and take your intimate relationship to another level.

Best Sex Starts With Communication

Discover the 5 love languages and determine the ways best sex starts with communication and how you can better communicate love with your partner.

When there is true connection between loving sexual partners outside the bedroom, sex can ramp up to a whole new level of intimacy. True love and sexual ecstasy is the end result of many steps and the very first one after chemistry, is communication. In fact, communication can even start the mental chemistry and there is no stronger connection than love.

But even it’s not always that simple, the good news is that the best love and sex may only need a slight tweak in your thinking to be achieved. Gary Chapman wrote a book titled The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts which he determined the 5 ways we communicate. It just takes an awareness and change of your delivery. You can have things back on track and as for Chapman, communication is the key.

Each person has primary love language that we as a partner should learn to speak if we want our significant other to feel loved. Gary Chapman explains that each person needs to receive love and that every person need to be loved can be compared to what he calls as a ‘love tank’.

Chapman’s explanation on how we can better understand the 5 love languages to fill up our partner’s ‘love tank’ are as follows:

  • Words of Affirmation. If this is your partner’s language, your compliments, acknowledgement and recognizing something your partner has done well to you and for the relationship will mean the world to them. Hearing the words “I love you” and the reason behind that love will always be a music to their ear. As Chapman describes it, it’ll be a pouring rain on a thirsty soil where soon enough you’ll see new life growing.
  • Acts of Service. For these people, the saying ‘action speaks louder than words’ are true for love. If your partner has this love language, doing something for them will speak volumes. Vacuuming, helping with the dishes, the laundry and even a simple cup of coffee in the morning done with joy will make them feel most loved.
  • Receiving Gifts. Gift giving is universal and throughout the course of history has been recognized as an expression of love. However, for people whose primary love language is receiving gifts, this act will make them feel being loved the most. Your partner will feel loved and treasured receiving gifts on their birthdays, holidays, anniversaries and even on ‘no occasion’ days. They don’t really mind if the gift is expensive or fancy, for them, it’s the thought that counts.
  • Quality Time. This language is all about giving the other person your undivided attention and the fullness of your presence. These people feel most loved when they feel a greater connection where you are not doing something else, but only being there conversing and listening. This includes emotional connection during any activity you are doing together, even if you’re just ‘hanging out’ together.
  • Physical Touch. To this person, nothing speaks more deeply than appropriate touch. They will appreciate lots of hugs, a pat on the shoulder, touching his/ her legs when you’re driving together, holding hands while walking, kissing and cuddling, sex, and even an impromptu massage will do the trick. Reaching out and touching your partner will be very reassuring and meaningful if he/she has this primary love language.

Communication is the key and this is what How Game Are You – Couples Intimacy Edition was designed for. It’s also about communication, learning, discussion, opening conversations and as an added bonus, it’s great fun and there are many laughs and can be played just with a partner or as a group. It’s all about communication and learning. How Game Are You? Couples Intimacy Edition is now available through our website, Amazon (US and AU) and Ebay (AU). You can view full details here or order your own copy of the game now and be one of the first to receive it.

Let the fun and romance begin and take your intimate relationship to another level.