New Date Night Ideas

New Date Night Ideas

On your first date, a nice meal and a few drinks is all it really takes. But after a while and you get more comfortable as time passes, it can be fun to add a little ‘spark’ back into date night. Instead of the same-old, maybe it’s time to get more creative with new date night ideas.

Below are 25 date night ideas to get you started, from things like a foodie date night eating each course at a different restaurant, to outdoorsy ideas for nature enthusiasts and Ferris Wheel adventures. Pick your favourite new ideas and use the others as inspiration for something else you might prefer. We’re sure your partner will certainly appreciate the effort and you might surprise yourself on how much fun and connecting it can be.

  1. Recreate the First Date You Ever Had Together – If you went to a movie, rent the same movie. If you went out for dinner, go back to the same restaurant or make the dish that you ate at home.
  2. Appreciation and Gratitude night – Set out a few candles, a nice healthy and light meal, and each do an exercise together of writing down at least 10 things you appreciate in your partner, and then at least 10 things you are grateful for in the world. Explain your list to each other and maybe talk through future plans on things you’d like to do more together.
  3. Kiss, Kiss, Kiss – Not for a first date, but if you’re a more seasoned pair, try mastering these 36 kisses: French Kiss, Sniff Kiss, Nip Kiss, Eskimo Kiss, Butterfly Kiss, Basic Kiss, Spiderman Kiss, Flavored Kiss, Vacuum Kiss, Fish Kiss, Tease Kiss, Candy Kiss, Ice Kiss, Firm Kiss, From Behind Kiss, Slow Motion Kiss, Opposite Kiss, Downward Kiss, Tickle Kiss, No Lips Kiss, Blow Kiss, Woodpecker Kiss, Lady and the Tramp Kiss, Shocking Kiss, High Low Kiss, Kiss on the Hand, Kiss on the Cheek, Kiss on the Neck, Kiss on the Fingers, Kiss on the Shoulder, Kiss on the Ear, Kiss on the Back, Kiss on the Navel, Kiss on the Nose, Kiss on the Eyes, Kiss on the Forehead. Not sure what they all mean? Just have fun with it.
  4. Do Something a Little Bad – Skinny dipping, light sidewalk graffiti, doing something you aren’t supposed to be doing can actually bring couples together. Plus, it’s great for a future story.
  5. Stargaze – It’s a bit of a cliché, but completely romantic. Who could resist a date that involves stargazing? To get started, download the Night Sky app so you actually know what you are looking at.
  6. Plan a Picnic – Whether you’re heading to a park, beach or even just your backyard or fire escape, put down a blanket, get a spread of yummy snacks, a bottle of wine, and you’ve got yourself a lovely, low-cost date.
  7. Go Camping – Borrow equipment from a friend if you don’t have your own, cook marshmallows over an open fire, and completely unplug from technology. You can even do this in your backyard if time is tight.
  8. Head on a (Mini) Road Trip – Pick a destination about an hour from where you live. It could be anything from a flea market to a restaurant off the beaten path and just drive.
  9. Head to the Farm and go Berry Picking – Berry picking is a fun activity, and one that allows for a lot of talking and getting to know each other.
  10. Take a Craft Brewery Tour – Learn something and get good beer in the process? This is pretty much a foolproof date. To find a tour, start by calling a microbrewery near you and go from there.
  11. Go to a Fancy Bar and Dress Up – Get dressed up, go to a fancy bar (hotel bars are an easy choice), and try something off the exotic cocktails list.
  12. Take a Workout Class – Take a spin class, a rowing class, or one of the myriads of trendy boutique workout classes that have popped up just about everywhere in recent years. Couples that sweat together, stay together.
  13. Rent a ‘Dream Car’ or convertible – Take your partner and your dream car you’ve rented on a daytime or weekend adventure, even if it’s just driving and exploring.
  14. Troll for Photobooths – Spend an evening looking for photobooths and taking fun photos together. The souvenirs from the evening are just a bonus.
  15. Take a Ride on a Ferris Wheel – Countless romantic comedies feature couples falling in love at the top of the Ferris wheel, and with good reason. Plus, there is something so nostalgic and wonderful about heading to a local fair or amusement park on a date.
  16. Take a Boxing Class Together – Not your typical date, get the endorphins flowing taking a boxing class together.
  17. Shop for Each Other – Head to a thrift store, set a budget, and pick out outfits for each other!
  18. Visit a Museum and See Something Unexpected – Going to a museum is a great date idea. Go see a controversial show, and the conversation will flow easily from there.
  19. Learn to Dance – Find a dance studio that offer sessions for first timers and couples. Looking to do something special? Consider booking a private lesson to start or just subscribe to local studios and they’ll often send out special promos and invitations.
  20. Meet for Drinks at a Local Landmark – From the Eiffel Tower, to the Empire State Building, to the Top of the Space Needle – head to a local landmark and admire the view, while creating your own movie worthy moment. If you’re on a mid-price budget, have a drink at home before you get public transport to the venue, share earbuds to listen to a special soundtrack/new band together on the way, have a fancy cocktail at the venue, then off to a gourmet pizza place after.
  21. Volunteer Together – A great first date idea, head anywhere from a soup kitchen to a home for the elderly to volunteer, while getting to know your date.
  22. Sing Karaoke – While you are on your karaoke date, don’t forget to do a duet. When in doubt, Sonny and Cher’s “I Got You Babe” can’t be beat.
  23. Make Homemade Pizzas with Wild Toppings – Instead of just any dinner, make homemade pizzas, and don’t be afraid to go wild with the toppings.
  24. Work on a DIY Project – Look through Pinterest for a project, and then execute it together.
  25. Have a Game Night – Dust off some of the fun games in the cupboard, or better still, How Game Are You?™ Intimacy Edition and plan a night in to talk, laugh, share and connect more with each other.

Hopefully a few of these date night ideas resonate with you already and are new. Some involve a little planning so maybe create a shortlist with your partner and plan to do one each month as a special treat, on top of your normal date night routine. View the details of the game or buy it now here or on Amazon You’ll often get back what you put into a relationship, so time to have fun and let’s see ‘How Game Are You?™’?

Relationship Resolutions

Relationship Resolutions

We often wonder what will happen in the New Year and for most of us we are content to let what will be, be. I would strongly suggest that for the sake of our happiness and well-being we don’t let that be our attitude when it comes to our relationship resolutions with our spouse. We shouldn’t take a chance in only “maybe being happy”.

Research indicates that when we make plans and set goals, we often exceed our expectations and we are more at ease with our life. We all have hopes and dreams for ourselves and our lives together, but do we write them down and plan how to achieve them? It’s a matter of knowing the difference between a hope or dream and a goal.

The topic of this discussion is about our resolutions for the New Year. If you would spend some time in your head and heart answering the question, ‘What makes this relationship so good and how can we contribute to making it great?’ And when each of you has done this, come together and begin to make those things a plan which you both agree.

So how can we achieve this? Perhaps with a little wine, laughter, love, and a large dose of adventure and an even larger portion of compromise. I think that compromise in relationships is the most underutilized tool we have. Think about looking at it differently; think about the freedom of compromise. Why freedom?

Recall how we get stuck when we each hold onto our own choice, our own agenda, that ties up a lot of energy and a good portion of the goodwill within the relationship. When you come together and promise, did you notice the play on the word compromise, come together and promise, free up energy, time, love to be used in enjoying each other and your togetherness.

Here are some New Year’s resolutions that we can adopt:

  1. Treat your spouse better than you treat your friends – This is the most important relationship in your life and if it’s not you should be seeking help for the relationship, so anyway, why would want to treat this person less than you would your friends, relationships require politeness, courtesy, and manners along with kindness and respect.
  2. Kiss – express your love in physical and nonphysical ways, 4 6 second hugs a day minimum, when you kiss, or hug make sure you are there in that moment because if you’re not your partner will know.
  3. Make passion and romance a priority – Too often we put other things, not necessarily bad things, before our love, passion is like the glue of the relationship, romance makes us feel special, loved, wanted and needed, do what is needed to fit it into the top 5 things of your to-do list.
  4. Recommit to the relationship – Commitment in a relationship is twofold, committing to each other and to the relationship and committing to making the relationship worth committing to, if you do that the first part is easy.
  5. Laugh and play together – Having fun together makes memories we can cherish in life, but also that we can use when we feel disconnected, out of sorts with each other.
  6. Date Night – Make connections with the relationship, usually we love each other but we not always in love that is a lack of connection, regular weekly date nights take care of part of that.
  7. 30 minutes a day of undivided attention – We need to put in the effort of daily connecting, talking, giggling, planning, without electronic interference, without kids, friends, in-laws etc.
  8. Express gratitude – Tell each other a minimum of 3 things a day that you appreciate or are grateful about your spouse, to make it more intense, don’t repeat anything in a week.
  9. Work together – This is where we can really build up the bonds of the relationship and trust as well, working at projects, raising kids, chores and physical fitness as a couple helps us feel connected as well.
  10. Learn together – Learning a new skill, hobby or language by itself is good for you, it can delay dementia but, learning something together reinforces that knowledge that you are equals and you can help each other, building bonds.
  11. Listen – The old saying “God gave us two ears and one mouth for a reason” is true, we should listen attentively, with compassion and empathy, active listening lets our spouse know we are involved in the conversation and in the relationship.
  12. Praise more, criticize less – Being positive is always a good thing, when you are praising your spouse regularly, they feel wanted, needed and appreciated and will be more willing to return the effort.

I believe that if we adopted these things, worked at making them true and part of our relationship habits and skills we would have healthier, longer lasting and happier relationships. Isn’t that’s why we get married in the first place?

The How Game Are You?™ Couples Intimacy Edition was designed to help couples to build a fun, healthy and happy relationship. Order the game for yourself or someone looking to expand their intimacy with their partner and start a conversation that really matters.

Ideas from  http://improvingrelationships.blogspot.com/
Peoples Minds When Playing Games

Peoples Mind When Playing Games

What happens to peoples mind when playing games?  Games are played at a table. We take physical actions: Roll the dice, move a pawn, play a card.

But before we move a single pawn we’ve considered ten possible places to move that pawn. Before we play a card we’ve tried to predict what the consequences of that play will be.

In this article I want to look into peoples mind on games. To know people’s brain activity and to see what’s going on there while they play games. All with the hopes of making even better games of course.

What do you see on peoples mind when playing games?

There are a number of distinct “processes” happening to peoples mind when playing games.

Decisions

The smallest process of playing a game is making a single decision: What to do next?!

This process is enough to play a game. As long as players continue to make a decision on what to do next, the game will continue (and hopefully progress as well). As such it’s the most important building block in understanding what happens in peoples mind when playing games.

Decisions are informed by different other processes, predicting, assessing risks, strategizing and more.

To make a game interesting, the decisions have to be interesting. This means that they have to be non-trivial; it should not be obvious what the best choice is.

To be able to make a decision players have to be presented with a number of options: Move my pawn here or there, play this or that card.

In almost all games options are discrete, in that there is only a limited number of distinct possibilities (move 1 step or 2 steps, you can’t move 1.2934 steps). In theory however choices could be on a continuum, for example some war games you can move your units any distance as long as it’s less than their maximum move (and thus you could move 1.2934 cm!).

Predicting

To make a good decision players will try to predict what the consequences of different potential choices are.

This can be as simple as assessing the direct rewards that they get from a move: If I place my pawn here then I get 2 wood while if I place it there I’ll get 3; I’ll take the latter!

Generally however predicting will involve more steps, in that you’re trying to assess what the outcomes will be of the new position you hold: If I place my pawn here I get wood, there I get stone. Is wood or stone more useful to me right now?

Predictions can also attempt to take into account (expected) moves from other players: If I take the wood then Cindy will probably take the stone, meaning that next turn I can…

And these predictions can go deep into future moves. Good chess players can look 10+ moves ahead to see the potential outcome of what they could do now.

Being able to predict what will happen gives a feeling of control over what is happening in the game and thus this should definitely be incorporated in a game. However, being able to look too far ahead can lead to analysis paralysis, tedium and lengthy games (again chess is a good example here). Thus for more “casual” games it can be good to limit the amount that players can look ahead, for example by adding some form of randomness that cannot be predicted

Assessing risks

A specific form of prediction is assessing risks. If a game contains a source of randomness then it’s impossible to predict exactly what will happen, but it’s still possible to assess potential scenario’s: If I flip this tile I could get 0, 1, 2 or 3 coins and getting 1 coin is most likely.

Players can assess the risk of something happening with the game (as in the example above), but risks can also be assessed regarding other players: If I attack Mary then I’ll leave myself open, so there is a chance that Inra will attack me…

Assessing risks also leads to a new mental process: Hoping.

There is a period between making the choice to take a risk (roll the dice, flip a tile, attack another player) and the moment you know exactly what the outcome of that choice is. In this period the human brain will fervently hope for the best (or at least an acceptable) outcome.

This can be used to generate strong emotions in players: Taking an action where you are certain to get 2 coins isn’t half as exciting as flipping a tile and getting 2 coins. The outcome is the same, but the mental process is very different.

The more options there are the more a player will need to consider before making a choice. More options then generally will lead to more difficult, heavier and longer games. Having few options will make a game quicker and simpler, though that certainly isn’t always an advantage!

Strategizing

When you first play a game all you can do is try to predict the outcomes of possible actions and make a decision based on that; it’s extremely hard to see the “big picture”, of what kinds of actions when stringed together will lead to eventual victory.

When you’ve played a game a few times however these over-arching patterns start to emerge. When we start to discern such high level patterns to a game, we can adjust our play to it to make use of them. This can be as simple as seeing the synergy between game elements (This card gives me gold for every worker I have and that card lets me buy workers for gold…) to assessing different ways in which the game can be played (Last time I won by going for all the cheap building and ending the game early, but the time before that Andal won because he hoarded all his money until the end…)

“Strategies” can be set when starting the game, or they can be more malleable to take into account the exact circumstances you find yourself in.

Having a level of strategizing in your game will significantly increase the replayability of the game. Because after a few games it quickly becomes clear what options players have, what the consequences are and which of these are generally better than others. But when there are combinations of elements that are stronger than the elements on their own then there is further need to discover these combinations and then to figure out how each combination fares compared to the other potential combinations.

What happens between minds

In the previous paragraphs I’ve touched upon some elements on peoples mind when playing games and where players think not only about the game, but also how they interact with other players.

Predicting other players

As mentioned you can try to predict what another player will do based on your own moves and other players can be a source of “risk” as well.

Interestingly, player moves fall somewhere between perfectly predictable and completely random. This is because other players will (generally!) act intelligently. This means that their actions are not as simple as following a rule to find out what will happen after you take an action, but also that they are not as random as rolling a die.

Games are designed to obscure what the “best” move is, but to be transparent enough to get reasonably close to such a best move.

This implies that there are two barriers to perfectly predicting what another player will do. First that player might not be able to assess what the “best” move is. And so even if you are able to see what the best move (for that player) is, your prediction will still be off as they follow through on their own (flawed) reasoning.

Second, you might not be able to predict what the best move is for a player. This can be because you yourself are not perfect at assessing the best move for them (no shame in that!), but also because the other player may have information that you do not. For example they may have a card in hand that is very strong when taking one option but not another.

Bluffing

In many games players have information that the others do not; cards in my hand are only known to me and not to you.

This hidden information can be a powerful determinant in what ways I am able to influence the game. And thus finding out what kind of hidden information someone has can be a big boon in winning the game.

One way of finding out what kind of information someone has is by observing their actions. Poker is the quintessential example here: If we play poker at the most basic level then if you place a high bet (your action) then I “know” that you are holding good cards (your hidden information).

This then can lead to taking actions that are not optimal (when playing at the basic level), with the sole purpose of getting another player to think you have something that you do not actually have. The (hopeful) result will be that the other player will take an action based on what they think you have, instead of what you actually have. In poker for example a high bet can let the other player think you have great cards and so they fold, while in reality you had poor cards, but you still take the pot.

What is needed?

In order for a game to allow for “bluffing” there needs to be some hidden information. And the more that hidden information can influence the game, the more chance there is for bluffing.

Note that it is not strictly necessary for a player to actually be able to directly do anything with a hidden “asset”. Imagine a game where one player can look at the next “event” card (which will be revealed and executed the next turn) and the other players cannot. The actions of the first player could then let other players think that the event card is a particular one, shaping their own actions in response.

Bluffing requires players to pay close attention to what others are doing. As such it can distract from other elements of the game.

Closing thoughts

All board games like our How Game Are You? Couples Intimacy Edition are mind games, in that a large part of play happens on peoples mind on games. It’s possible to design games to make use of this to a larger or smaller extent. How Game Are You?™ Intimacy Edition because you each learn, enjoy and start new conversations to enhance your emotional and physical intimacy. View full details here or Buy Now  for quick delivery direct or through Amazon (US) and Amazon (AU).

The more you engage the mind, the deeper a game will be and generally the higher the replayability is. However, that does come at a cost of “relaxation value”; some people want to play games to get away from all those mental processes, not to engage in them even more. So you need to answer who you’re designing for and what the vision for your game is.

Source: http://makethemplay.com/index.php/2018/11/14/mind-games/
Games That Couples Play

Romantic Games That Couples Play

Are date nights getting a little boring and you want to step it up a bit? One of the things connected couples do is look to shake up date nights every now and then. Romantic games are one way to share some time alone with your partner and reconnect to why you came together and the joys this close bond can bring.

Most romantic games are about innuendo. Do this, guess this and then take some clothing off or sip a glass of wine or something. This is more tit-for-tat (if you excuse the pun), and it can be funny, but not fun, and definitely not connecting in a meaningful/ sustainable way.

There is more to romance than just playing a game. It’s about setting the scene first and the game is the substance.

The keys are:

  1. Set aside some quality time free of outside distractions

  2. Create the mood prior to set the scene. Maybe a little note added onto your partner’s lunch, or a text in the morning (e.g. so looking forward to our romantic games night together), or cheeky meme sent in the afternoon

  3. Create a nice space at home. Even if you just moved house, you can set aside some clean space, maybe put a tablecloth down or layout some snacks or dinner and a few candles or aromatherapy oils. It’s a sacred space of communication and romance that you are making

  4. If you are in the habit of de-briefing each day, agree between you to skip that today, or limit it to 5 mins or so each. Tonight has a focus, and its romance and connection, not practicalities

  5. Food or drinks are great additions and they can be especially prepared or take-away, but a little presentation goes a long way and helps set a higher standard. Maybe celebratory champagne to toast each other and what you love about each other, or some favourite fruit just in season or a rare treat you rarely splurge on

  6. Put electronics to the side (and preferably on silent). If something needs to be done, agree between you when your night will start and do the task before you sit down

  7. Hold hands and take a couple of deep breaths together to let the energy and attachment to the rest of your crazy day dissipate. You are here now setting a scene for your romantic night of fun and games

  8. Giving gratitude can be a great grounding task. Each take turns to say what you are grateful for in the world, including each other, and be very present. If you are not feeling present, explain this to your partner so they don’t get mixed messages and see what they suggest to help you become more present. For some, its a glass of wine, or a shoulder massage, foot massage or your favourite music played and a few more deep breathes to slow down

  9. Forget about your day and talk about love, romance, great times you’ve had together, what you love in life and about each other

  10. Play your romantic game or question cards of your choice (further examples below). We created a game specifically for this and it’s a real-life conversation game and through this couples learn, laugh and as a result, romantic connection develops at a whole new level.

  11. Take some photos of you having fun, or just stop for a second to acknowledge your partner and what a fun time you’re having. This is a moment you can recall in the future or talk about on a road trip, and help take you back to the moment

  12. Use the time together as a reminder of how good it is to feel romantic again, more connected and focused on your relationship. Set a date for the next event, or take turns to plan things, be it a full date night out, or an easy low-stress night in.

If you Google ‘Romantic Games’ there aren’t a lot on offer that aren’t tacky or just about activities rather than connection. Games for romantics are usually suggestions like Scrabble with romantic words only allowed, or drinking, strip games. Other are more strategy or make believe games and have their place for some people, but don’t really set the scene for a great romance night, of true intimate and romantic connection.

Even if you are skilled at opening conversations and creating safe places for intimate discussions, if your partner is less communicative for whatever reason (tired, flat, disconnected or just not valuing the time properly), it becomes harder to initiate or achieve a meaningful discourse. One solution is to sit down, think of some great conversation starters and your own way to start it. Make it fun and be interesting but not too provocative or push the other persons emotional buttons as you are trying to build connection and conversation, not win points.

Questions can be simple like: 

  • “What’s something in our lives together that you really appreciate at the moment?”
  • “What would you like to do more of as a couple?”

Or make them more romantic or steamy:

  • “What kind of romantic gestures do you like the most?”
  • “What’s something we haven’t done in the bedroom for a while we should think about?”

Creating these conversation questions can take quite some time. Lucky for you we’ve done the hard work and spent hundreds of hours developing questions to get your romantic games started.

‘How Game Are You? Couples Intimacy Edition is the “BEST ROMANTIC GAME EVER” we think’.

Think of this as a real-life conversation starter. The game starts with a Pledge Card to set the scene for a truthful game. Player 1 selects a Level 1 (1 chilli) card with simple ice-breakers to get conversation going, and then you move to more open-ended general questions. The next level (2 chilli cards) is about relationships specifically, romance, gratitude and date nights. Level (3 chilli) is more about physical intimacy questions, but in a tasteful way. 

You’ll learn a lot about yourself, your partner and your relationship. At the end the winner gets to choose a task for the loser, to be performed over the next 14 days or they have to pamper the other player in whatever ‘reasonable’ way they want. It’s a fun game to play and conversations linger way after playing the game, providing a basis for better understanding and more meaningful connection between couples. There are many romantic game nights to be had with over 150 base cards plus the bonus 4 chilli image cards.

How Game Are You? Couples Intimacy Edition is now available through our website, Amazon US and Amazon AU or Ebay AU. View the full details of the game here or order your copy now for yourself or as a gift, and be one of the first to play it.

Conversations Around Money And Intimacy

Critical Conversations Around Money And Intimacy

When it comes to critical conversations around money and intimacy, there will come a time when you and your partner would need to “have that talk”. Both of you might find uncomfortable and difficult to talk about. These are critical conversations that may lead you to feel sad, hurt, enraged, annoyed and defensive.

Initiating critical conversations around Money and Intimacy.

Making an effort to initiate these conversations mean that you care enough for your partner’s feelings and wellbeing more than your own.  Just like in any intimate relationships, one of the biggest uphill battles that couples go through is dealing with such conversations without feeling overwhelmed and defensive. You may begin with the best intentions, however, any wrong approach may upset your partner. When this pattern persists over time, it can drain whatever love and respect you have for one another.

Adopting a positive mindset when having critical conversations around Money and Intimacy.

With that being said, it’s important to adopt a positive mindset when discussing complicated topics. They key here is to choose your battles wisely and to differentiate issues that are important and petty. Understand each other’s point of view by listening actively and don’t blame nor criticize each other.

Keeping in mind.

Keep in mind, while these topics may seem challenging at the moment, having the ability to discuss them will strengthen your relationship and make these conversations easier in the future. Instead of avoiding topics you would rather not talk about, use these practical tips to prepare yourself head-on.

Steps to Approaching Critical Conversations with Your Partner.

Whether these issues are about money, career, family, sex or household tasks, you will have to deal with these difficult conversations eventually. The entire premise of this post is to help couples ease into difficult conversations without losing the love and consideration for each other. So, here are 5 effective tips you can follow to overcome your differences and discuss even the most uncomfortable topics you may have.

Understand that avoiding difficult topics is unproductive and may aggravate the situation.

  • Having a cool-off period can help simmer down emotions and provide enough time for couples to deal with the issue later on. However, when couples delay these issues for too long, they risk the chance of resolving them.
  • Say your spouse has a habit of not helping you with the household chores. However, you find this to be a non-issue and decided not to talk about it. This has now intensified to another level, dragging other unsettled issues in the process.
  • What started as a relatively minor annoyance lead to a huge fight that’s now hard to resolve. Instead of letting this affect you negatively, acknowledge that this issue is important to you and open this up with your partner.

Keep a calm demeanor and let your partner know that you want to discuss something.

  • You may want to choose the best time and place where both of you can devote your full attention to the topic. Some couples find it best to discuss something inside a private room without any distractions.
  • Timing is also important. You can’t expect your partner to be available immediately if they’re not ready to talk. Allow your partner some time to think about the topic, but don’t postpone it for a long time. Ideally, 48 hours should be great.
  • Don’t mislead your partner by inviting him or her to a dinner date only to have the discussion later on. Pick a schedule that’s convenient, when both of you are in the right mindset to talk and don’t have other plans that may cut the conversation short.

Start the conversation with respect and consideration.

  • Clarify that while this topic can be touchy or difficult to talk about. You acknowledge that both of you have different perspectives and you want to work together to understand these differences.
  • During the conversation, maintain that eye contact. Make sure to listen to your partner’s side to understand, not because you want to push a counter argument to their statement. While the other person is talking, don’t interrupt nor talk down on them.

Be accountable for your actions.

  • When you focus the conversation on changing your partner, you miss the chance to work together to find a solution. Steer the conversation on the issue at hand instead of bringing the spotlight on your partner’s deficiencies.
  • When expressing your feelings, use “I” or “my” statements. In this way, you are inviting your partner to respond positively without pushing them away or make them feel defensive. Example: “I would like to talk about my feelings about how we’re so busy that we don’t have time for each other anymore.” This avoids pointing all the blame to your partner and makes him or her feel that you’re taking responsibility for the problem.
  • Apologize when your actions hurt your partner, whether or not this was done intentionally. Get to the point without making any excuses. For example, you might say, “I’m sorry that I almost wiped out our savings on this new gadget without consulting you. I promise I won’t do it again.” Doing this validates your partner’s feelings, allows forgiveness and for both of you to move on.

Negotiate on shared goals.

  • Once both of you have the opportunity to speak about the issue, it’s time to figure out what’s next. Ask yourselves: what are your expectations now that we know each other’s feelings? Is there something that you can agree to work on together?
  • Nothing is more satisfying about the discussion than knowing that you’ve agreed on a plan of action. So, it’s important that you don’t control the discussion with a predetermined result in your head. The more emotional and sensitive the conversation gets, the more you need to agree on goals that consider each other’s feelings and perspectives.

We’re all in this together

As you try to work out the issues outlined in your conversation, remind yourself that you’re all in this together. This isn’t a competition and there certainly won’t be winners or losers. Instead, it is about working as a team and coming out stronger no matter the circumstances you find yourselves in.

Having the courage to start and end critical conversation takes plenty of skills and patience. By following these tips, any couple can learn to reconcile their differences, allowing them to attain personal and mutual fulfillment for years to come.

How to go forward?

Real-life communication is an essential key that allows yourself to open to a healthy relationship. The very core of communication in an intimate relationship is connecting to your loved ones with physical, verbal, and nonverbal skills to achieve mutual needs.

How Game are You? is a premium line of game cards that banks on ‘Real Life Conversations’ around money and intimacy to improve a couple’s relationship. We understand that talking about money and sex is something that many couples still find awkward and difficult to discuss.

This is why we designed this adult game cards to give couples a fun and enjoyable outlet to get that sizzling conversation rolling around sex, intimacy, and money. Breaking the archaic stigma on societal judgment and prejudices. And yes! It’s all done in consensual fun since you can choose if you want to play each card or not, or share about yourself as much as you like.

If you want to have an amazing time connecting with your partner without going through the barriers of communication, buy the game. How Game Are You? Couples Intimacy Edition is now available through our website, Amazon (US and AU) and Ebay (AU). You can order your own copy of the game now and be one of the first to receive it.

Keeping A Relationship Fresh And Exciting

Keeping A Relationship Fresh And Exciting

Playing is one of the most effective tools for keeping a relationship fresh and exciting. It brings joy, energy and flexibility to the relationship. And the same time it can also be a tool in healing pains caused by arguments and hate. Regularly playing together enables us to learn to trust and feel safe around the people we’re with. Trust helps us to work together, to be more open to intimacy and confident to try new things. And these efforts can improve the relationship quality you have not just with your family, friends and co-workers but mostly your love relationship with your partner. Here’s some ways on keeping a relationship fresh and exciting:

  • Play helps develop and improve social skills. As a adults we already know the basics of socialising, and as we constantly practice play and humor we’re polishing more those skills. And one prime example of this play and humor skills is flirting, that is for an ‘adult’ kind of interaction.
  • Play teaches cooperation with others. Cooperation doesn’t stop at working as a team, but as well as breaking down those walls so you can reach out more and the team work you’re building is more genuine. This goes as well with love relationships, with play and humor you’re breaking down the wall between you and your partner working more as a team, adding and keeping things more exciting, fresh and vibrant.. In a new love relationship, it helps individual overcome awkwardness towards the other person during their dating and getting-to-know stage.
  • Play can heal emotional wounds. Playing allows you to be engage in a positive and playful behaviour that are common in child development. This behaviour can also create the same positive behaviour for adults. For example, for an emotionally insecure person playing with a secure partner, play and humor can alleviate this negative emotion and behaviour replacing it with a more positive action and connection. This positive and playful behaviour also allows people in a love relationship to easily overcome differences and deal with tiny misunderstandings easily.

We’ve developed a fun game to help with all of the above called How Game Are You? If you want some some extra fun in your relationship, buy the game to finally take things up a notch. How Game Are You? Couples Intimacy Edition is now available through our website, Amazon (US and AU) and Ebay (AU). You can view full details here or order your own copy of the game now and be one of the first to receive it. Let the fun and romance begin and take your intimate relationship to another level.

Romantic Games For Couples

Romantic Games For Couples

Are date nights getting a little boring and you want to step it up a bit? One of the things connected couples do is look to shake up date nights every now and then, and romantic games for couples is one way to share some time alone with your partner, learn, laugh and see what happens on a new level 😉

There are a number of games available for couples, from card games to board games, from trivia games to strategy games and unfortunately, most are cheap and tacky. Some are rightfully designed to get to know your partner better, but most seem to just set the scene for titillation and miss the main part of a great date night, and future nights – true intimate connection.

Even if you are skilled at opening conversations and creating safe places for intimate discussions, if your partner is less communicative for whatever reason (tired, flat, disconnected or just not valuing the time properly), it becomes harder to initiate or achieve a meaningful discourse. One solution can be to get together with a bunch of friends and create romantic but also respectful conversations and games. Easier said than done I hear you say, but now there is an answer.

Dinner parties are fun by themselves, and the combination of good people, good food and maybe even good wine that can make the night go up a notch. Use this environment to bring in some cheeky fun, banter and laughs all in a safe place with friends. Whether it be fun sex trivia, or dares, or comparing opinions, the table environment allows fun, laughter and often conversations to be had that can be a little harder one-on-one.

These conversations also linger on well after the dinner party and provide the basis for better understanding, discussion, re-thinking childhood taboo’s and more meaningful connection between consenting adults. The good news, is that rather than having to create your own romantic games night and ideas, it’s been done for you and you can order now and be playing in just a few days.

The new theme game How Game Are You – Couples Intimacy Edition is designed to take the romantic game concept and make it easy, fun and encourage intimacy conversations (emotional and physical) between couples. It can be played safely with a number of couples or singles over dinner parties and is tasteful, respectful and no keys need to be thrown in any bowls! The game has invitations, instructions, meal ideas, table settings, all the special placemats, cards and items to facilitate a great night and ensure a fun and tasteful night.

How Game Are You – Couples Intimacy Edition was specifically designed to open fun and interesting conversations about sex with the objective to reduce stigmas and judgements. Through this it re-ignites a sense of fun and passion for couples wanting to understand more their emotional and sexual side in a fun and tasteful way.

So get the gang together!

You can check out this article to know more about romantic games for couples or view the full details of the game. How Game intimacyAre You? Couples Intimacy Edition is now available through our website, Amazon (US and AU) and Ebay (AU). You can order your own copy of the game now and be one of the first to receive it. Let the fun and romance begin.